tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-164428762011-04-21T12:34:12.021-07:00The Argument against Marriage in Modern Lifesj05http://www.blogger.com/profile/16668437151091833604noreply@blogger.comBlogger21100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16442876.post-1132519009678165482005-11-20T12:18:00.000-08:002005-11-20T12:36:49.690-08:00In 1900, life expectancy was 48 and 97% of the population worked on farms. That meant the average person got married around 18 or 19, farmed, never changed careers or moved, till they died in their mid 40s. <br /><br />Chances were, either you or your mate would die from disease, famine, injuries on the farm, war, or childbirth, at an early age. If you had 20 good years together, you were lucky. <br /><br />Those of us who have been married, know that each major change greatly increases the stress on a marriage. Major changes that can take a marriage to the breaking point are the birth of children, career changes, moving from city to city, and so on. <br /><br />Previous to 1900 there were very few changes in a persons life except for the birth of children. <br /><br />In 2005, life expectancy is 78 (30 years longer), 97% of the popluation works in non-farm jobs, most people get married in their early 20s, have two or three major career changes including moving cities. <br /><br />If one is to stay married to your first spouse, on average, that is going to be around 50 years of marriage, two or three children, four or five career changes between both spouses, and moving between cities three or four times. That's a lot of stress!<br /><br />Can we really expect modern marriages to survive under all this change and stress. It's no wonder that the divorce rate is over 50%. <br /><br />However, the answer isn't to have less change or to go back to living on the farm. The answer is to expect less from the out-dated institution called marriage. Perhaps we should have expiration dates on marriage licenses. <br /><br />Or, perhaps we should never get married at all.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/16442876-113251900967816548?l=nevermarry.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>sj05http://www.blogger.com/profile/16668437151091833604noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16442876.post-1126052531588283342005-09-06T17:18:00.000-07:002005-09-06T17:22:11.593-07:00Most people grow up with the notion that they will one day fall in love, marry and live happily ever after. Movies, TV, and society reinforce this as the normal course of events. But today 50% of marriages end in divorce. And, we all know of married couples who have stayed together but are living in misery. If you add together the number of divorces and the number of miserable marriages that should divorce, I would guess the percentage of happy marriages to be quite low. Why? <br /><br />Have we considered that perhaps marriage, as an accepted normal path, has lost it’s usefulness in the modern world. That marriage is not for everyone. Some people are simply happier without the bonds of marriage.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/16442876-112605253158828334?l=nevermarry.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>sj05http://www.blogger.com/profile/16668437151091833604noreply@blogger.com2